Title: Are Girls Actually Selfish? Or Are They Adapting to Be Selfish?

Introduction

Society often frames women’s choices through a narrow lens, shaped by long-standing expectations and unequal upbringing. The following piece explores how those early differences in treatment can push women toward independence and how that independence is sometimes mislabeled as selfishness.

It all starts with little gaps or differences shown between a boy and a girl child. Have you ever wondered why girls always want to set out of the home whereas boys are okay to be at home? The answer is expectations! When a girl is staying with her parents she is expected to fulfil certain gender-based responsibilities, whereas it is okay if the boy child doesn’t; there isn’t this burden of expectations put onto the boy child, at least until marriage.

Now the problem with modern-day couples or individuals is that girls have now adapted to be independent, do all possible things by herself; basically she is now capable of doing the so-called male gender roles as well. But the men community is not being expected to fulfil the household responsibilities. It has got to do with our upbringing as well; we have grown up listening to our parents asking the girl child to study and work, unlike the older-generation girls who were not expected to do so. But in the process of making a girl financially independent, they forgot to teach their sons to be independent in terms of household chores.

Again, inequality. Feminism is all about equality in all terms; basically there shouldn’t be any force that is put on a female to fulfil certain socially based norms. That’s what we wanted, but we see the reverse happening — but only in cases where men choose to take a different path. The question here is that men are not taught or expected to help his wife or mother, and if they do it, they are now called raja beta!

Simple things like taking permission from the whole family for a small 1–2 days outing, whereas the son can choose to make sudden plans and just vanish — and trust me, no emotional dramas would be seen here. This is why women choose, forcefully, to stay away, just to be able to make her decisions independently.

This is very sad to see and feel about it, but still the girl gets to hear comments that are unacceptable, yet is made to hear them without being given any choice of her own. This breaks her and makes her take harsh decisions like moving out, or become self-oriented, choose to be silent, choose to be finally independent. And society terms such women as SELFISH WOMEN; trust me, I call it SELF-MADE WOMEN!

Conclusion

Labeling women “selfish” overlooks the structural inequalities and double standards that shape their choices. Recognizing and correcting those expectations—by teaching household responsibility to all children and supporting genuine equality—will help shift the narrative from blame to understanding.

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